This is an example of a regional parenting magazine article I wrote and sent out one year.
How Martial Arts Combats Bullying
By Kerrie McLoughlin
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According to bullying statistics found at StopBullying.gov,
a study found that approximately 49% of kids in 4th through 12th
grade said they had been bullied at least one time in the previous month. Bullying
can lead to low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, poor performance in school
and, in some extreme cases, even suicide.
Where is bullying happening? It’s happening most often at
school, including at recess and on the school bus, but school isn’t the only
place. It also occurs where kids are gathering in large groups, like at
amusement parks, block parties, campgrounds and swimming pools. And of course
we can’t forget about cyberbullying, which includes using cell phones and
computers as ways to bully with words and spread untrue words and embarrassing
photos. There are many kinds of bullying, and some schools are promoting silicone wristbands to create and promote awareness.
So what can we,
as parents, do about this widespread problem? Well, it turns out martial
arts is a great place to start. Of course, martial arts can’t necessarily
tackle the cyberbullying issue, but it can give our kids the self-confidence
they need to handle people who are not treating them well in a specific
situation.
Lindsey Watts, mom of a daughter who has been in martial
arts for four years, says, “Martial arts gives kids discipline and teaches them
respect. They learn self-control, perseverance and integrity. They learn to
help build a more peaceful world.”
One mother shared a sad situation that happened to her son,
“My son was in 2nd grade when he was being bullied. We had no idea
it was going on; we just knew that something wasn’t right ...” Her son ended up
bullying another child and was sent to see the principal, where the story came
out that a boy at recess, someone her son called a friend, had been bullying
him. Later other issues came out, like that he had been pushed, tripped and
poked. “We then realized our good-natured son … may be setting himself up for
more bullying. Our son was very shy, but just wanted everyone to like him so he
befriended everyone.”
Dave Kovar, founder of Martial Arts Against Bullying (MAAB)
and life-long martial arts professional, shares on his website
DoneWithBullying.com, “I believe that no other industry is in a better position
to do something about bullying than the martial arts industry … The mere act of
training in martial arts and having children develop a higher level of
confidence decreases their chances of being bullied in the first place.”
The mom from the previously mentioned bullying situation
shared her family’s resolution. “We decided our son needed help with handling
himself and building his confidence up. [Tae Kwon Do]
gave my son confidence to know that he had the strength within him to stop
something first with his words, and — as a last resort — defense. Never to hit
first, never to intentionally hurt the person hurting you but to just keep
yourself safe. My son is now 10 years old and has his high brown belt in TKD.
My son walks tall now. He's not afraid to stand up for himself or others. TKD
has taught him that fighting is never the answer. It's only a last resort to
protect himself from harm or to protect someone else from harm.”
Robyn Morrow, mom of a Tae Kwon Do student, “I was teased
and called four eyes as a child and had a hard time feeling connected to
people, but that pales in comparison to the stories I've heard happening
nowadays. My oldest child is skinny and tall, but holds his head high and walks
tall … I think his confidence is in large part due to his years at Taekwondo …
He knows he has the power to break boards, so I would guess that gives him more
confidence too. I am so glad we made the choice to enroll him in Taekwondo
classes before he reached the awkward teenage age he's entering now.”
Martial arts comes with other benefits as well. Jody Jones,
mom of 3, says, “I think martial arts helps form a great foundation for
understanding the benefits of structure, discipline and hard work. Attaining a
black belt, or any higher belt rank, is a manifestation of what you can gain
through the physical and mental discipline of mental arts. It's an experience
that's hard to duplicate for your children, and the concept of working
extremely hard to attain your goals is one that you carry into your adult life
and work.”
Kerrie McLoughlin is
the homeschooling mom of 5, author of several ebooks on Amazon.com and blogger
at TheKerrieShow.com.
Check out this Comprehensive Cyberbullying Guide for Parents
Check out this Comprehensive Cyberbullying Guide for Parents