I read this book called “True Mom Confessions: Real Moms Get Real” and it’s helped me with some of my judgmental attitudes. The quotes from the book are almost done ... after a break tomorrow I'll do the final quote on Monday. There’s also a web site you can check out. Here ya go:
“I wish someone had told me that everyone is screwed up in one way or another, no matter how pulled together they look from the outside. And that those who don’t have any screws loose are very boring.”
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“I think people who don’t ‘believe’ in ADHD, autism, or other psychological disorders are ignorant and judgmental. Just because you’re lucky enough not to have to deal with one of these challenges yourself doesn’t mean the disorders don’t exist … The icing on the cake? Those who pat themselves on the back about their superior parenting skills because their child ‘doesn’t behave like that’. Trust me, I am a GREAT mother. You would end up in tears in a heap on the floor if you had to parent my kid every day.”
A friend just emailed me the link to your blog because she thought the second quote reminded her of me. It's truly something I might have said or written myself. I have a son with ADHD and Sensory Processing Disorder that (mostly) makes it difficult for him to eat (we're starting to make progress with his issues with clothes). Each day is a struggle, and I have two other children to parent. Before I had children, I just assumed my kids would be healthy and well-behaved. Well, you know what they say about people who assume . . .
ReplyDeleteI have an ADHD, Asperger (Autism related) child and it is INCREDIBLY hard! People can be judgemental that have never been there. Some days I just have my head in my hands, wondering what the heck to do with him. He causes most of the fights in the house and he can get so violent. He is teaching me patience very badly!
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