I know a lot of people who think they are too old to have children, and they are infecting my household. Because they have their opinion and I have mine, I want them to think about a few things.
So I ask you this: would you (potentially) rather go to your child’s graduation or wedding in a wheelchair or would you rather live with the knowledge that you killed that baby due to abortion? I know what I would choose, because the regret of abortion is unfathomable, believe me.
And sure, you could die before you see your kid have kids, but you could also get hit by a texting driver tomorrow!
The time you are spending griping about this issue could be instead spent exercising or researching and purchasing some awesome vitamins, minerals and other healthy supplements. Put down the fried chicken strips and pick up a salad, people!
This whole thing might seem silly when you’re 100 and healthy and your kid is 50. Hey, John Travolta and Kelly Preston just had another kid at ages 56 and 48. Yeah, I know they're rich, and they have a lot of amazing potential guardians to choose from.
If you know someone who had a baby over age 40, please send them here to comment. I’d love to know the good, the bad and the ugly (and the positive and the miracles!).
Friday, February 4, 2011
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
LL Bean Pima Cotton Sucks
I was so excited when I ordered my LL Bean Pima Cotton long-sleeved T-shirts. I usually spend about $5-10 per long-sleeved shirt at Target, but they don’t last long, they fade and they stretch out and get holey. So I figured I’d drop $20 per shirt at LL Bean since they got rave reviews about lasting almost until the end of time. I love the V-neck and the crewneck, but the boatneck definitely isn’t for those of us of the large-breasted variety of women. And the worst part of all was …
THEY ALL SHRANK IN LENGTH.
For those of us of the rounded tummy variety of women (gimme a break; I’ve had 5 kids and love chocolate), this is the kiss of death in a shirt. We want our butt half-covered and our belly fully covered. Shrinking upwards is not acceptable.
Guess I’m heading back to Target until I can drop some weight … I mean, I'm chunky cute and proud of it, but I still want to look my best, ya know? What's so wrong with that?!
THEY ALL SHRANK IN LENGTH.
For those of us of the rounded tummy variety of women (gimme a break; I’ve had 5 kids and love chocolate), this is the kiss of death in a shirt. We want our butt half-covered and our belly fully covered. Shrinking upwards is not acceptable.
Guess I’m heading back to Target until I can drop some weight … I mean, I'm chunky cute and proud of it, but I still want to look my best, ya know? What's so wrong with that?!
Monday, January 31, 2011
Passing on Weight Issues to Our Daughters
here's something i recently tweeted: "i'm going to call myself "chunky cute" and love my 155 pounds (after 5 kids, dammit)."
someone asked: "Why are you so obsessed with weight? You look great! What sort of message are you sending to your girls (and boys) if this is the thing you are focusing on?"
here is my reply: "wouldn't say i'm "obsessed" with weight, but i do want to feel my best. i like being able to chase my kids and actually catch them if they are, say, running toward the street. thanks for saying that ... and that's what i'm trying to say, as well. the message i'm sending my girls is that i love my extra weight if it chooses to stick around. however, if i lose it by eating better foods for me, that's fine, too. i don't need cellulite-free thighs or higher boobies, just to feel great. when my moods are altered by M&Ms in a bad way, that's sending a bad message: that I can't stop myself from eating too much crap when i feel bad or bored or whatever. i want them to eat as good as they can and to look how they want, how they are happy with themselves. basically as a woman you can't win, it would seem!"
if a woman says she never thinks about her weight, she is lying. we all struggle with it. we all struggle with appearing nice and enlightened so we can pass on good things to our daughters. i'm coming to terms with the fact that i like myself no matter what i weight. how is that a bad thing to pass on to my girls? i'm not obsessed, just wanting to open the discussion!
someone asked: "Why are you so obsessed with weight? You look great! What sort of message are you sending to your girls (and boys) if this is the thing you are focusing on?"
here is my reply: "wouldn't say i'm "obsessed" with weight, but i do want to feel my best. i like being able to chase my kids and actually catch them if they are, say, running toward the street. thanks for saying that ... and that's what i'm trying to say, as well. the message i'm sending my girls is that i love my extra weight if it chooses to stick around. however, if i lose it by eating better foods for me, that's fine, too. i don't need cellulite-free thighs or higher boobies, just to feel great. when my moods are altered by M&Ms in a bad way, that's sending a bad message: that I can't stop myself from eating too much crap when i feel bad or bored or whatever. i want them to eat as good as they can and to look how they want, how they are happy with themselves. basically as a woman you can't win, it would seem!"
if a woman says she never thinks about her weight, she is lying. we all struggle with it. we all struggle with appearing nice and enlightened so we can pass on good things to our daughters. i'm coming to terms with the fact that i like myself no matter what i weight. how is that a bad thing to pass on to my girls? i'm not obsessed, just wanting to open the discussion!
Saturday, January 29, 2011
Don’t Go To Bed Mad?!?!
How come? So you’ll both sleep better?
That’s dumb. I’ve been with my guy for 15 years now and we’ve gone to bed mad tons of times. You get tired of arguing and being mad at some point, ya know?
And do you notice how most guys can fall asleep anytime? It’s not like my husband is tossing and turning and worrying all night long, so I don’t, either.
I need the sleep so I can argue or ignore more the next day.
Age-old advice doesn’t work for everyone. Always remember that.
That’s dumb. I’ve been with my guy for 15 years now and we’ve gone to bed mad tons of times. You get tired of arguing and being mad at some point, ya know?
And do you notice how most guys can fall asleep anytime? It’s not like my husband is tossing and turning and worrying all night long, so I don’t, either.
I need the sleep so I can argue or ignore more the next day.
Age-old advice doesn’t work for everyone. Always remember that.
Thursday, January 27, 2011
My nephew RaShaun's blog ... inoperable tumor
My nephew RaShaun has an inoperable tumor in his body. He's the same age as my Callie ... almost 6. Rather than go into all the details, I helped his mom (my husband's sister and my sister-in-law, obviously!) set up a blog for him. Some of the posts are written from RaShaun's perspective, some from his sisters' or his brother's or his grandma's. They want to get the word out about this rare thing and try to find out if anyone else out there is struggling with something similar. They need support and they need prayers.
Head to http://www.rashaunjames.blogspot.com/. If you forget, it's down the left side of my blog on my blogroll (mess that it is; I desperately need to clean up my blogroll!!!).
Thanks!
Head to http://www.rashaunjames.blogspot.com/. If you forget, it's down the left side of my blog on my blogroll (mess that it is; I desperately need to clean up my blogroll!!!).
Thanks!
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