Sometimes there comes a point in your relationship when you no longer want to continue with it. The reasons can vary, from falling out of love to wanting different things in life. It can be a sad thing when your relationship comes to an end, whether you're married or you've only been seeing each other for a few months. When you're the one to end the relationship, deciding exactly how to do it can be tough. However, if it's what you want, you need to think about how you're going to do it so that you can start to move on and perhaps find love elsewhere.
Ensuring Your Safety
The first thing that you might need to consider when ending a relationship is your own safety. Some people end a relationship due to abuse, whether physical or psychological. This can make it especially difficult to leave, but there are resources out there to help and support you. Your safety is also about what you're going to do after ending the relationship to ensure it doesn't damage other aspects of your life. Will you need to find somewhere else to live? Who will be there to support you while you are grieving the end of your relationship?
Ending a Marriage
If you are married, the end of your relationship will usually mean also ending your legal partnership. This makes things a little more complicated, but it doesn't stop you from separating before your marriage is legally over. There are some situations when you might be able to consider getting an annulment instead of a divorce. This is when the marriage is legally considered as having never happened, and is only allowed in some circumstances. Otherwise, you will need to look at the process for getting divorced. While getting divorced isn't essential, it is best to legally separate yourself from your former spouse.
Planning Your Next Steps
When you're trying to decide whether to end a relationship, it can be difficult when you're unsure of what you will do next. An unsure future can make it harder to make the right decision. So it's a good idea to think about what your next steps are going to be, especially if ending your relationship might mean that you need to find somewhere new to live. Maybe you're going to spend some time with your family or set up some time to talk to a friend.
Considering How to Broach the Subject
If you're getting ready to end a relationship, finding the right words can be the toughest part. And that's before you think about when or where is the right place to bring it up. While you don't want to spring it on your partner at an inopportune moment, it's also important not to keep looking for reasons not to bring it up. Preparing what you're going to say is a good idea too, but there's only so much preparation that you can do before broaching the subject.
Leaving your relationship is hard but it's sometimes necessary. It's better to end a relationship that isn't working than stay and be unhappy.
