Monday, January 31, 2011

Passing on Weight Issues to Our Daughters

here's something i recently tweeted: "i'm going to call myself "chunky cute" and love my 155 pounds (after 5 kids, dammit)."


someone asked: "Why are you so obsessed with weight? You look great! What sort of message are you sending to your girls (and boys) if this is the thing you are focusing on?"

here is my reply: "wouldn't say i'm "obsessed" with weight, but i do want to feel my best. i like being able to chase my kids and actually catch them if they are, say, running toward the street. thanks for saying that ... and that's what i'm trying to say, as well. the message i'm sending my girls is that i love my extra weight if it chooses to stick around. however, if i lose it by eating better foods for me, that's fine, too. i don't need cellulite-free thighs or higher boobies, just to feel great. when my moods are altered by M&Ms in a bad way, that's sending a bad message: that I can't stop myself from eating too much crap when i feel bad or bored or whatever. i want them to eat as good as they can and to look how they want, how they are happy with themselves. basically as a woman you can't win, it would seem!"

if a woman says she never thinks about her weight, she is lying. we all struggle with it. we all struggle with appearing nice and enlightened so we can pass on good things to our daughters. i'm coming to terms with the fact that i like myself no matter what i weight. how is that a bad thing to pass on to my girls? i'm not obsessed, just wanting to open the discussion!

Saturday, January 29, 2011

Don’t Go To Bed Mad?!?!

How come? So you’ll both sleep better?

That’s dumb. I’ve been with my guy for 15 years now and we’ve gone to bed mad tons of times. You get tired of arguing and being mad at some point, ya know?

And do you notice how most guys can fall asleep anytime? It’s not like my husband is tossing and turning and worrying all night long, so I don’t, either.

I need the sleep so I can argue or ignore more the next day.

Age-old advice doesn’t work for everyone. Always remember that.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

My nephew RaShaun's blog ... inoperable tumor

My nephew RaShaun has an inoperable tumor in his body. He's the same age as my Callie ... almost 6. Rather than go into all the details, I helped his mom (my husband's sister and my sister-in-law, obviously!) set up a blog for him. Some of the posts are written from RaShaun's perspective, some from his sisters' or his brother's or his grandma's. They want to get the word out about this rare thing and try to find out if anyone else out there is struggling with something similar. They need support and they need prayers.


Head to http://www.rashaunjames.blogspot.com/. If you forget, it's down the left side of my blog on my blogroll (mess that it is; I desperately need to clean up my blogroll!!!).

Thanks!

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Question for Geneen Roth

Here's a problem I have with food. I'm supposed to concentrate on what I'm eating and eat what my body wants, but when I'm at a family gathering and am focusing on the kids not breaking stuff, I just want to shove food in my mouth quickly to get it over with and then concentrate on keeping the kids from being too nuts.

OR ... the opposite of that ... I want to tune the kids out and hope Aron or someone else handles them while I really get into my huge plate of food.

Balance is always hard. More so with kids, I am taking a risk by saying.

Geneen, when are you going to write a book with the personal experiences of the moms who have been to your workshops? I could really  use it right now!

Friday, January 21, 2011

Treadmill for sale in KC

The library now closes at 6 on Fridays, so I had to run to get Aron's work key, then run to his work, and now Jordan has called to say Sam is crying, so I'm in a rush and can't sign up at Craigslit right now. Anyone want a treadmill? ProForm CrossWalk Plus circa 1997. Asking $75. Never had a problem with it, never replaced belt. Leave me a comment and I can grab it on here via my sitter's cell phone ... how lame is THAT?!

Thanks, bloggy friends! Oh, and must live in the KC area!

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Sea Monkeys ROCK!

I recently wrote about how we tried over and over again to get the Smithsonian Sea Monsters kit work. Well, Michael got some sea monkeys for Christmas and they HAVE HATCHED!

Yippee!

They are teeny tiny, but there is clearly something moving around in the little tank that is not sawdust.

Stay tuned.