Here I sit at Mickey D's, checking in with ya'll while my kids run wild in the play area. Aron's working more long hours, so a break from the house was in order.
Just wanted to check in ... feeling down because my friend's 13-year-old son died on New Year's Eve. This boy was also a friend to my children. We attended his wake and funeral last weekend. When we went for a playdate last week, this boy's presence was greatly missed.
It's very strange when your friend is drifting in an ocean of her own tears. I feel helpless. I feel like I say stupid things. I feel like I want to help but can do nothing concrete to ever make her feel better about what has happened. I can't bring back her son, and I hate that feeling.
I would love to hear from some of you! If you can't leave me a comment on the blog due to BOTH of my stinking blog comment accounts being messed up and not responding to my pleas for help, please email me at mommykerrie at yahoo dot com with your comments, or you can find me on Facebook at The Kerrie Show and write me there.
I'm hoping to get permission from my friend to put some of her son's poetry on here for you to enjoy because this is a truly gifted child. I want more than anything for him to never be forgotten. I want him to live on.
You have such a heart. Your friend is blessed just to have you cry with her. Sometimes thats the only thing we can do. Hang in there.
ReplyDeleteOne thing I love seeing from you during this time is the ability to talk about this young man (I see you are not sharing names here so I won't either) and posting his picture on fb. I love how some of your statuses share not just the fact that you miss him, but some things about him that are just sweet and endearing and I think that is a real ministry to this family.
ReplyDeleteIf you say anything stupid, friend, at least you are saying something, remembering him and letting everyone know there's a real sense of loss there.
My friend and neighbor lost her 17 year old daughter to an auto accident, along with another friend's son, 10 years ago.. it is hard to know what to do and say for them. I think the best thing is just being there for them and giving them at least a phone call a day to let them know you share their grief is the best thing you can do.. The kids in our town collected money door to door and bought evergreen trees and planted them at the high school..
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comments ... isn't it funny how they work for THIS post ... hmmm!
ReplyDeleteYeah, what is the deal?? I wanted to tell you congrats on your latest post, too...
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