Tuesday, April 3, 2012

Scary Mommy's New Book: Confessions of a Scary Mommy

I have a guilty pleasure, and her name is Scary Mommy. I love her blog because of its honesty and humor. Parenting is funny and often bittersweet and maddening and sad, and then the next day it's wonderful and cute and awesome! Here's her blog (warning: lots of cussing and reality). Her book comes out today and you can get it all sorts of places. I kinda wonder sometimes how she would have handled this situation!

So here is some info about her book from Amazon.com (you can order the book here for a reasonable price, considering the laughs:money ratio you're getting), followed by a short, 5-question email interview Scary Mommy (aka Jill Smokler) was kind enough to do with me:

"Sometimes I just let my children fall asleep in front of the TV. In a culture that idealizes motherhood, it’s scary to confess that, in your house, being a mother is beautiful and dirty and joyful and frustrating all at once. Admitting that it’s not easy doesn’t make you a bad mom; at least, it shouldn’t.
If I can’t survive my daughter as a toddler, how the hell am I going to get through the teenage years?
When Jill Smokler was first home with her small children, she thought her blog would be something to keep friends and family updated. To her surprise, she hit a chord in the hearts of mothers everywhere.
I end up doing my son’s homework. It’s wrong, but so much easier.
Total strangers were contributing their views on that strange reality called motherhood. As other women shared their stories, Jill realized she wasn’t alone in her feelings of exhaustion and imperfection.
My eighteen month old still can’t say “Mommy” but used the word “shit” in perfect context.
But she sensed her readers were still holding back, so decided to start an anonymous confessional, a place where real moms could leave their most honest thoughts without fearing condemnation.
I pretend to be happy but I cry every night in the shower.
The reactions were amazing: some sad, some pee-in-your-pants funny, some brutally honest. But they were real, not a commercial glamorization.
I clock out of motherhood at 8 P.M. and hide in the basement with my laptop and a beer.
If you’re already a fan, lock the bathroom door on your whining kids, run a bubble bath, and settle in. If you’ve not encountered Scary Mommy before, break out a glass of champagne as well, because you’ll be toasting your initiation into a select club.
I know why some animals eat their young.
In chapters that cover husbands (The Biggest Baby of Them All) to homework (Didn’t I Already Graduate?), Confessions of a Scary Mommy combines all-new essays from Jill with the best of the anonymous confessions.
Sometimes I wish my son was still little—then I hear kids screaming at the store.
As Jill says, “We like to paint motherhood as picture perfect. A newborn peacefully resting on his mother’s chest. A toddler taking tentative first steps into his mother’s loving arms. A mother fluffing her daughter’s prom dress. These moments are indeed miraculous and joyful; they can also be few and far between.” Of course you adore your kids. Of course you would lay down your life for them. But be honest now: Have you ever wondered what possessed you to sign up for the job of motherhood?
STOP! DO NOT OPEN THIS BOOK UNTIL YOU RECITE THESE VOWS!
I shall remember that no mother is perfect and my children will thrive because, and sometimes even in spite, of me.
I shall not preach to a fellow mother who has not asked my opinion. It’s none of my damn business.
I shall maintain a sense of humor about all things motherhood."




Interview with Kerrie and Jill Smokler (Scary Mommy):
Kerrie: How do you decide what's off limits to write about (blog and book)? Or do you just let it all hang out?  
Jill: Where I am concerned, I let it all hang out, for good or bad. The kids, however, are a different story. The older they get, the more I find myself biting my tongue and really reflecting on how they would feel about having a particular story or experience shared. I am very aware that their lives aren't really mine to share with the world and really do think about what I put out there.

Kerrie: How have people in your life (friends, family, the parents at your kids' school) changed since you started blogging the truth about life? (respect or fear?!)  
Jill: It's funny; other than my husband and mother, the people close to me in real life don't really follow the blog. Friends and acquaintances often preface things with, "don't write about this but..." so there is definitely an awareness, but for the most part my real life and online life remain separate. 

Kerrie: Do many haters (June Cleavers) leave comments? Do you delete them or leave them on because they are entertaining?  
Jill: When they do, I leave them up because they are definitely more entertaining than anything else. I don't get all that many comments like that on my own site, though, it's when I post elsewhere that the haters come out. People can be crazy.

Kerrie: Is your family fully supportive of your blogging and writing, or is it kinda like having a stripper in the family?  
Jill: They are completely supportive. My husband is a major trooper for putting up with it all and everyone else gets a kick out of it. At least, they do now that I'm not writing about any of them anymore. 

Kerrie: How do you find time to write? (while they sleep, are at school, have your man "babysit", hide out in the garage?)
Jill: The kids are all in school, so that's definitely a productive time period, but it also helps that I don't sleep. I average around 4 hours a night which is great for my productivity, but not so much for my sanity. Sane bloggers are boring, though... right?
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